Ring, ring…ring, ring…hello…oh hi Samantha, just rang to share the meaning of life! 🤣❤️🙏
And I have to mention that all the animals and birds were trying to tell you all round your video that meaning of life. They are alive, they are adventuring, they are ‘being themselves’. Whether late for a feed, you disturbing their harmony on the path or even them using you as a ‘come look and see’ to their brothers and sisters as you sat on the path…and distract you they did 🤗
Ah kind lady…it is so simple but oh so hard. Love…we find it in all those relationships…but it is our love, our expectations of it. And no one can live up to it. In fact it always seems to be the same ‘problems’ each time. Oh it may be done in 50,000 different way…but it always makes you feel the same, that rejection, regardless of what they do. And it only feels that way because of those expectations.
We don’t want to be hurt so we say please, don’t do this or that…and they do. And just to rub salt into the wound, sometimes they even enjoy it.
One very important thing that needs to be seen in these relationship things is…if you ask someone to ‘not do something’, they instinctively feel it is a go at them. Some things not much, but some things are quite strong to the ‘other’ because they too are ‘on guard’ for their fears so automatically ‘react’ and step back. And before anything is even done in this relationship…there is a distance, and you haven’t done anything yet. Those expectations from both are creating a gap that you have to cross in everything that is done in that relationship.
Because this ‘falling in love’ thing affects us so strongly, we think it will be the answer to all our woes, its beauty, its interactions, even its looking deeply into each others eyes. But…because it opens us so much in our hearts, we feel everything…and yes, even those parts that hurt. Love is asking us to see, and feel…and heal. It wants us to understand that it is ever us with the damaged bits, even though we point our fingers at others. Yes they hurt us…but why? Simply because it is those damaged bits from our very early childhood that built them inside us, put a barrier up so that we can’t be hurt by those we love and look up to.
But love…it wants us to see so it taps us on the shoulder to come out and play, see the why we hold these things…and understand it isn’t the other…but us because of that early pain. And it is so painful that the younger us not understanding, could only put up a barrier to any action that is similar to those we loved and looked up to, way back then. To which we ever carry with us.
So much so that in many that I ask they all say I have had a fantastic relationship with my parents, they loved me to bits. But after a while a chink appears, then another…until a dam bursts forth. A lifetime of…I’m ok, there’s nothing wrong here, it’s nothing, they do love me…really. But it is that barrier that speaks.
There is one way to find what I speak…look for the thing that makes you the angriest, hurts you the most in its action, a way you are treated in all your relationships…then go back to that one (or two), adults that brought you up…and made you feel the same. It is deeply in there that you must go, and feel that pain again, understand why it makes you feel so badly…and in that understanding let it go. Then, you will see why you have acted as you have for so, so many years, projecting those expectations all around. Remove them by understanding and they will no longer haunt you, they will no longer have any meaning. And in that you will have stripped fears power over you.
And suddenly life completely changes, the ‘on guard’ is released…and the weight…oh that weight…you will suddenly begin to fly, so light, so free. And the beauty in all around you, like those animals and birds, will be like nothing else. Your view of the world in these new lenses will have a smile, a big inner smile, simply because you now understand the beauty in all you have done. And yes, even those hard things have great meaning. You cannot appreciate happiness unless you experience sadness too. You cannot know and understand unconditional love, unless you understand conditional love too. And our fears are just that, very conditional.
Those actions of another…yes, they are bad, are so tearing of our hearts in our love with them. But they too have to face their journey…but you, you only have, in truth, control of yours. Help them by all means, but you can only understand them by how much you understand you. Heal you, and you heal them so much more.
You are doing well kind lady, daring to face it all. And in that you are being loving to you, and in return, to them also. And when you understand you, understand your pain, you will suddenly understand them too.
Big hugs Samantha, it is a big journey, but it is because of that you will truly appreciate it all…I promise 😀❤️🙏
In Bloom 
Ring, ring…ring, ring…hello…oh hi Samantha, just rang to share the meaning of life! 🤣❤️🙏
And I have to mention that all the animals and birds were trying to tell you all round your video that meaning of life. They are alive, they are adventuring, they are ‘being themselves’. Whether late for a feed, you disturbing their harmony on the path or even them using you as a ‘come look and see’ to their brothers and sisters as you sat on the path…and distract you they did 🤗
Ah kind lady…it is so simple but oh so hard. Love…we find it in all those relationships…but it is our love, our expectations of it. And no one can live up to it. In fact it always seems to be the same ‘problems’ each time. Oh it may be done in 50,000 different way…but it always makes you feel the same, that rejection, regardless of what they do. And it only feels that way because of those expectations.
We don’t want to be hurt so we say please, don’t do this or that…and they do. And just to rub salt into the wound, sometimes they even enjoy it.
One very important thing that needs to be seen in these relationship things is…if you ask someone to ‘not do something’, they instinctively feel it is a go at them. Some things not much, but some things are quite strong to the ‘other’ because they too are ‘on guard’ for their fears so automatically ‘react’ and step back. And before anything is even done in this relationship…there is a distance, and you haven’t done anything yet. Those expectations from both are creating a gap that you have to cross in everything that is done in that relationship.
Because this ‘falling in love’ thing affects us so strongly, we think it will be the answer to all our woes, its beauty, its interactions, even its looking deeply into each others eyes. But…because it opens us so much in our hearts, we feel everything…and yes, even those parts that hurt. Love is asking us to see, and feel…and heal. It wants us to understand that it is ever us with the damaged bits, even though we point our fingers at others. Yes they hurt us…but why? Simply because it is those damaged bits from our very early childhood that built them inside us, put a barrier up so that we can’t be hurt by those we love and look up to.
But love…it wants us to see so it taps us on the shoulder to come out and play, see the why we hold these things…and understand it isn’t the other…but us because of that early pain. And it is so painful that the younger us not understanding, could only put up a barrier to any action that is similar to those we loved and looked up to, way back then. To which we ever carry with us.
So much so that in many that I ask they all say I have had a fantastic relationship with my parents, they loved me to bits. But after a while a chink appears, then another…until a dam bursts forth. A lifetime of…I’m ok, there’s nothing wrong here, it’s nothing, they do love me…really. But it is that barrier that speaks.
There is one way to find what I speak…look for the thing that makes you the angriest, hurts you the most in its action, a way you are treated in all your relationships…then go back to that one (or two), adults that brought you up…and made you feel the same. It is deeply in there that you must go, and feel that pain again, understand why it makes you feel so badly…and in that understanding let it go. Then, you will see why you have acted as you have for so, so many years, projecting those expectations all around. Remove them by understanding and they will no longer haunt you, they will no longer have any meaning. And in that you will have stripped fears power over you.
And suddenly life completely changes, the ‘on guard’ is released…and the weight…oh that weight…you will suddenly begin to fly, so light, so free. And the beauty in all around you, like those animals and birds, will be like nothing else. Your view of the world in these new lenses will have a smile, a big inner smile, simply because you now understand the beauty in all you have done. And yes, even those hard things have great meaning. You cannot appreciate happiness unless you experience sadness too. You cannot know and understand unconditional love, unless you understand conditional love too. And our fears are just that, very conditional.
Those actions of another…yes, they are bad, are so tearing of our hearts in our love with them. But they too have to face their journey…but you, you only have, in truth, control of yours. Help them by all means, but you can only understand them by how much you understand you. Heal you, and you heal them so much more.
You are doing well kind lady, daring to face it all. And in that you are being loving to you, and in return, to them also. And when you understand you, understand your pain, you will suddenly understand them too.
Big hugs Samantha, it is a big journey, but it is because of that you will truly appreciate it all…I promise 😀❤️🙏
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So great! I’m going to save this and read it again and again! Thank you, Mark ❤ Big hugs back!!
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