Haha, may I leave a comment Samantha? 🤣 Right, it is really quite simple really…until you try to do it. Ok, the male is brought up one way, the female another, emotionally and physically. One upset by the other because they are not used to that ‘opposite’ part being projected onto them, ever thinking ‘they’ are right, the other wrong, not realizing they are just different. Each having this perception that some ‘way’ is where they want to be in that growing up.
Now all of this is just testing the waters of who we are…but underneath it all is that ‘need’ to just be in that ‘love and happiness’ we all seek. How to marry the two? We live and ever test ourselves to find that place in all we do…but…never knowing where that place is. But that is the key, the not knowing ever asks us to go beyond that. And not realizing it…we do.
Each and every time we clash, get upset, fall down, cry till the rivers run dry, we do that very thing we ever seek. We face ourselves! So what you say, I do that in the mirror every day. But the part you miss for its depth is when you say to yourself…I don’t want to do this anymore…I’m tired…exhausted…just plain had enough. And each time it asks you to go one more step, do something differently…even just do you, and stop trying to be something…for everyone else.
And the moment you do, you begin to break that wall of fear from your childhood, dare to go beyond what you have ever held and begin to believe you are better than this. You’ve never dared it before…but you’ve had enough of being afraid, holding those doubts and negativity’s of yourself, ever on guard to being hurt. But to do this we must be pushed into a place so that we will do exactly that. Marriage breakdowns, lost relationships, death, pain, pain, and more pain…to bring us to that very place and push us that last step to go beyond it.
And in that one act of facing ourselves because of that, in breaking through a belief of ourselves in those fears, we will finally see that it was this one thing that blocked the very thing we had been seeking. No one else had blocked this, only us. In fact, we attract to us those very things so that we can break through and find the ‘us’ through it. All those people that we point the finger at in our so very difficult pathway…are in fact helping us. If they didn’t do what they did, and as bad as some of it is…we wouldn’t never reach that place to break through and finally understand.
Understand what you say…to see that inner child, still residing in us after all this time holding onto a moment, a way of feeling from those they loved and looked up to…until that very same individual/s tore our hearts out by doing or saying something that hurt us so painfully, affected us so badly, that a lifetime wall was built over our hearts…and ever then projected so that if anyone treated us the same, we would be upset again all over and yell, scream, shove their and our feelings away so that you never have to feel that again. And leave them in a loss to understand just what happened. Their journey was different so they cannot understand the meaning behind it and your reaction. You then ask them to never treat you like that again, not realizing that what you ask them…will be stabbing them just the same in some way. Ever the testing of those waters of our hearts.
The entire point of all this is to ask you to go beyond that pain so that you can see what truly lives within you beyond that wall you built as a child. That child had no emotional handling capacity to how they felt they were treated. Had their love smashed by a parent/s probably unintentionally treating you from how they were treated as a child too. They had not understood ‘their’ fears when you were born, and passed them on in those treatments they never understood. But, in doing so they have given you, and themselves, a chance to go through and find that love they had missed forever. That is why we all ever seek it, that very childhood is the beginning of a path to finally understand what love truly is.
On the day you finally see through it all and understand exactly how your fear was created…the ‘let go’ of a lifetime of holding that fear of not being loved…is so beyond words. It will knock you to the ground in tears, big beautiful tears simply because you have understood that it all had a very profound purpose…so that you could finally see and understand unconditional love. Because you see…your love had ever been conditional, ever bound by your fears, restricted in so many ways in whatever your expectations had been because of those fears. And in understanding that very conditional love and removing it…you finally can love the one person you have struggled to love in those doubts and fears…you. You now are unconditionally loving yourself. One cannot be done without the other.
So, why are we boys and girls…because in a very powerful way we will show each other how to love…by how not to. All that hurt and pain is a very big school to teach something truly profound. And through it all those many emotions are used, tested, balanced and aligned until we finally reach that place of perfection that unconditional love is. We experience it all, like going through a place of sadness, but only truly appreciating it when we then experience happiness…and know where we would rather be…and focus on it. Until one of those opposite sex’s come along and poke us again. Look through all your relationships, find the common denominator in what always hurt you from them…and then look inside you to find why. That child hadn’t been left behind, but was holding onto something very incredible…so that you could find you, and a love so profound through it ❤️🙏
Pain, pain, and more pain 🙂 You’re right. We just have to keep going through it. In my experience, as I continue to do that, I can connect more and more dots back to their roots. Then the next time the pain comes in whatever form it does, it’s a little less hurting and a little more loving. As far as freedom and expansion go, it’s perfect. Thank you, Mark ❤
Thank you kind lady, for sharing your hurt, your pain, your heart, to find that you 🥰 Spirit has asked me to post this if that is ok. I’ll take out that first line in reference to you so it applies to…everyone 😀❤️🙏
Oh, I’m referring to posting my comment to you by the way. Just thought I better be more accurate on that, not that your post shouldn’t be re-posted 🤗😀❤️🙏
AND…it may only say a few have clicked ‘like’, but there are quite a few ‘just reading’ to feel your journey and where they are at in their journey too 😀❤️🙏
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Haha, may I leave a comment Samantha? 🤣 Right, it is really quite simple really…until you try to do it. Ok, the male is brought up one way, the female another, emotionally and physically. One upset by the other because they are not used to that ‘opposite’ part being projected onto them, ever thinking ‘they’ are right, the other wrong, not realizing they are just different. Each having this perception that some ‘way’ is where they want to be in that growing up.
Now all of this is just testing the waters of who we are…but underneath it all is that ‘need’ to just be in that ‘love and happiness’ we all seek. How to marry the two? We live and ever test ourselves to find that place in all we do…but…never knowing where that place is. But that is the key, the not knowing ever asks us to go beyond that. And not realizing it…we do.
Each and every time we clash, get upset, fall down, cry till the rivers run dry, we do that very thing we ever seek. We face ourselves! So what you say, I do that in the mirror every day. But the part you miss for its depth is when you say to yourself…I don’t want to do this anymore…I’m tired…exhausted…just plain had enough. And each time it asks you to go one more step, do something differently…even just do you, and stop trying to be something…for everyone else.
And the moment you do, you begin to break that wall of fear from your childhood, dare to go beyond what you have ever held and begin to believe you are better than this. You’ve never dared it before…but you’ve had enough of being afraid, holding those doubts and negativity’s of yourself, ever on guard to being hurt. But to do this we must be pushed into a place so that we will do exactly that. Marriage breakdowns, lost relationships, death, pain, pain, and more pain…to bring us to that very place and push us that last step to go beyond it.
And in that one act of facing ourselves because of that, in breaking through a belief of ourselves in those fears, we will finally see that it was this one thing that blocked the very thing we had been seeking. No one else had blocked this, only us. In fact, we attract to us those very things so that we can break through and find the ‘us’ through it. All those people that we point the finger at in our so very difficult pathway…are in fact helping us. If they didn’t do what they did, and as bad as some of it is…we wouldn’t never reach that place to break through and finally understand.
Understand what you say…to see that inner child, still residing in us after all this time holding onto a moment, a way of feeling from those they loved and looked up to…until that very same individual/s tore our hearts out by doing or saying something that hurt us so painfully, affected us so badly, that a lifetime wall was built over our hearts…and ever then projected so that if anyone treated us the same, we would be upset again all over and yell, scream, shove their and our feelings away so that you never have to feel that again. And leave them in a loss to understand just what happened. Their journey was different so they cannot understand the meaning behind it and your reaction. You then ask them to never treat you like that again, not realizing that what you ask them…will be stabbing them just the same in some way. Ever the testing of those waters of our hearts.
The entire point of all this is to ask you to go beyond that pain so that you can see what truly lives within you beyond that wall you built as a child. That child had no emotional handling capacity to how they felt they were treated. Had their love smashed by a parent/s probably unintentionally treating you from how they were treated as a child too. They had not understood ‘their’ fears when you were born, and passed them on in those treatments they never understood. But, in doing so they have given you, and themselves, a chance to go through and find that love they had missed forever. That is why we all ever seek it, that very childhood is the beginning of a path to finally understand what love truly is.
On the day you finally see through it all and understand exactly how your fear was created…the ‘let go’ of a lifetime of holding that fear of not being loved…is so beyond words. It will knock you to the ground in tears, big beautiful tears simply because you have understood that it all had a very profound purpose…so that you could finally see and understand unconditional love. Because you see…your love had ever been conditional, ever bound by your fears, restricted in so many ways in whatever your expectations had been because of those fears. And in understanding that very conditional love and removing it…you finally can love the one person you have struggled to love in those doubts and fears…you. You now are unconditionally loving yourself. One cannot be done without the other.
So, why are we boys and girls…because in a very powerful way we will show each other how to love…by how not to. All that hurt and pain is a very big school to teach something truly profound. And through it all those many emotions are used, tested, balanced and aligned until we finally reach that place of perfection that unconditional love is. We experience it all, like going through a place of sadness, but only truly appreciating it when we then experience happiness…and know where we would rather be…and focus on it. Until one of those opposite sex’s come along and poke us again. Look through all your relationships, find the common denominator in what always hurt you from them…and then look inside you to find why. That child hadn’t been left behind, but was holding onto something very incredible…so that you could find you, and a love so profound through it ❤️🙏
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Pain, pain, and more pain 🙂 You’re right. We just have to keep going through it. In my experience, as I continue to do that, I can connect more and more dots back to their roots. Then the next time the pain comes in whatever form it does, it’s a little less hurting and a little more loving. As far as freedom and expansion go, it’s perfect. Thank you, Mark ❤
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Thank you kind lady, for sharing your hurt, your pain, your heart, to find that you 🥰 Spirit has asked me to post this if that is ok. I’ll take out that first line in reference to you so it applies to…everyone 😀❤️🙏
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Oh, I’m referring to posting my comment to you by the way. Just thought I better be more accurate on that, not that your post shouldn’t be re-posted 🤗😀❤️🙏
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I thought so! No worries!
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AND…it may only say a few have clicked ‘like’, but there are quite a few ‘just reading’ to feel your journey and where they are at in their journey too 😀❤️🙏
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