Take a bow Samantha, you have learned to listen to yourself…and understand. Anything we understand, we let go of…and that changes us, simply because we are no longer carrying that weight of the unknown.
When we are children we unintentionally take on our parents, or those we love and look up to. Because we love them, want to be just like them. And ‘them’ unintentionally pass on their fears. They haven’t resolved them when you were born, just like you will pass them onto your children. In fact some ‘children’ will see your ‘so called’ bad bits and swear they will never be like you…and go full tilt in another way that is just as bad…simply because of the rejection of that love because of how you feel you may have been treated.
Rejection…there is a million ways to do it…but it always comes back to that love…or rejection of it. Remember this is a very young child and their ways of handling something. Do you remember sticking your fingers in your ears and screaming out ‘yaa yaa yaa’ at the top of your lungs when you didn’t want to hear something. Well, at least now you just put up an ’emotional’ wall and block out what they are saying to reduce our pain.
Well now you are breaking down that emotional wall. It took many years to build that sucker and it does take time, as life will build it but also eventually break it down. And the biggest breaker is just being able to speak it, as you are, and actually listening to the pain that built it…and realizing it is just the pain of that rejection, whatever form it takes. Those actions by others are in fact just our ‘reaction’ to our fears. Face the fears as you have and its foundation is weakening. Understand something, anything, and we let it go. It no longer ‘needs’ to be held ‘on guard’ because of that non understanding.
A big journey kind lady, but a very profound one. Because in that understanding we realize that the love and happiness we had ever looked for ‘out there’ was just what we were missing inside. And it was not understanding our pain, having those many doubts and fears of ourselves. Heal those by understanding them and it all goes away…and replaced by that love we have always looked for. It was only ever those doubts and fears that kept that love we look for all the time, and usually in another, at bay. The instant you see and understand them, you open once more. And that love you looked for has full access back inside you.
An example…and I’ve said this one before, and you can apply it to anything at all…when you first go to drive a car, your nervous, scared you’ll hit another car, the police will pull you over for doing something wrong etc etc. It is a nerve wracking time. But, in 12 months time you’ll be barely thinking about it…why…because you now understand it, and let it go. Anything in life you are unsure of will ‘stay’ chattering away in your mind. Understand it, and you let it go. Fear is the same, we don’t understand it and to make it worse we don’t want to face it because of what it does to us. But it is there we must go to ‘understand’ it. And in fact it is such a simple thing, but a very powerful understanding when you see it for what it is.
Your doing well, your daring to face it…all of it. That is, in itself, that love of which I spoke. It isn’t until we face it that we finally are starting to love us. Great post my friend, your doing what only love can do truly…open your heart and heal you 😀❤️🙏
Sounds like a good idea Samantha. I’ve been sidetracked for a while and my site still has its maintenance page up while I fix a few things. And much happening at the moment. A few friends in trouble, many others touching base. Even a great friend of mine has been truly going through the wars. In a 12 month period, a divorce, two beautiful dogs she loved to bits died on separate occasions, her dad passed away 5 weeks ago, and then the love of her life, the man that truly acted as her father, passed away a week ago. I can feel her heart tearing in two. I don’t think even I could have the strength to do as she has. Anyway, I’ll be back kind lady. Breathe and may there be a nice sunny day, a coffee, and feel the warmth opening a new world to you 😀❤️🙏
In Bloom 
Take a bow Samantha, you have learned to listen to yourself…and understand. Anything we understand, we let go of…and that changes us, simply because we are no longer carrying that weight of the unknown.
When we are children we unintentionally take on our parents, or those we love and look up to. Because we love them, want to be just like them. And ‘them’ unintentionally pass on their fears. They haven’t resolved them when you were born, just like you will pass them onto your children. In fact some ‘children’ will see your ‘so called’ bad bits and swear they will never be like you…and go full tilt in another way that is just as bad…simply because of the rejection of that love because of how you feel you may have been treated.
Rejection…there is a million ways to do it…but it always comes back to that love…or rejection of it. Remember this is a very young child and their ways of handling something. Do you remember sticking your fingers in your ears and screaming out ‘yaa yaa yaa’ at the top of your lungs when you didn’t want to hear something. Well, at least now you just put up an ’emotional’ wall and block out what they are saying to reduce our pain.
Well now you are breaking down that emotional wall. It took many years to build that sucker and it does take time, as life will build it but also eventually break it down. And the biggest breaker is just being able to speak it, as you are, and actually listening to the pain that built it…and realizing it is just the pain of that rejection, whatever form it takes. Those actions by others are in fact just our ‘reaction’ to our fears. Face the fears as you have and its foundation is weakening. Understand something, anything, and we let it go. It no longer ‘needs’ to be held ‘on guard’ because of that non understanding.
A big journey kind lady, but a very profound one. Because in that understanding we realize that the love and happiness we had ever looked for ‘out there’ was just what we were missing inside. And it was not understanding our pain, having those many doubts and fears of ourselves. Heal those by understanding them and it all goes away…and replaced by that love we have always looked for. It was only ever those doubts and fears that kept that love we look for all the time, and usually in another, at bay. The instant you see and understand them, you open once more. And that love you looked for has full access back inside you.
An example…and I’ve said this one before, and you can apply it to anything at all…when you first go to drive a car, your nervous, scared you’ll hit another car, the police will pull you over for doing something wrong etc etc. It is a nerve wracking time. But, in 12 months time you’ll be barely thinking about it…why…because you now understand it, and let it go. Anything in life you are unsure of will ‘stay’ chattering away in your mind. Understand it, and you let it go. Fear is the same, we don’t understand it and to make it worse we don’t want to face it because of what it does to us. But it is there we must go to ‘understand’ it. And in fact it is such a simple thing, but a very powerful understanding when you see it for what it is.
Your doing well, your daring to face it…all of it. That is, in itself, that love of which I spoke. It isn’t until we face it that we finally are starting to love us. Great post my friend, your doing what only love can do truly…open your heart and heal you 😀❤️🙏
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This is perfect, Mark! You should publish it on your page! Thank you so much ❤
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Sounds like a good idea Samantha. I’ve been sidetracked for a while and my site still has its maintenance page up while I fix a few things. And much happening at the moment. A few friends in trouble, many others touching base. Even a great friend of mine has been truly going through the wars. In a 12 month period, a divorce, two beautiful dogs she loved to bits died on separate occasions, her dad passed away 5 weeks ago, and then the love of her life, the man that truly acted as her father, passed away a week ago. I can feel her heart tearing in two. I don’t think even I could have the strength to do as she has. Anyway, I’ll be back kind lady. Breathe and may there be a nice sunny day, a coffee, and feel the warmth opening a new world to you 😀❤️🙏
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Prayers for your friends ❤
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Thank you kind lady, it is very appreciated 😀❤️🙏
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